Marriage wasn't meant to be easy. It is for some people. For others it is a struggle and takes constant work and effort. Marriage is ultimately something you choose everyday. You choose each other. You choose to be committed to each other and the life you are creating together.
John Gottman wrote the book Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work, to help couples communicate more effectively and give them the skills to over come those hard times that are bound to happen. Literature like this is important, and can be useful for couples.
As an unmarried, undating twenty-something, books like this can be useful for me too. It's good for me to be prepared for marriage, and it is good for me to be ready with the tools I need to navigate the world of marriage that is sticky, vulnerable, and sometimes scary. Reading books like Gottmans wont only help me, but it will be useful for me to help my spouse. I can give them the book and have them read it, to be ready with the same skills I have.
Marriage is two people coming from different backgrounds, and you come with different knowledge. When you are taking in the same information it takes some of the guess work out of communication and working through conflict. Anything that can put you on equal ground, on the same page is useful for marriage.
Marriage is tricky, and most people need all the help they can get. Why not take things like Gottmans book and use them to help us? If you have something to give you even a little bit of edge in the marriage world, shouldn't you take it and run with it? I know I will.
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