Family rules. Some spoken, some unspoken. The way families manage things specific to them, and things that everyone else deals with, is up to them. It's important that families find a way to manage things that works for them. Things need to run smoothly, and the only way to do that is to find the schedule and routine that works for them, regardless of what other peoples schedule and routines are.
In my family, my dad manages all of the money. His income fluctuates month to month, so it is easier for him to handle the money portion of things, because he knows exactly what is coming in. For my sister, she manages the money, because her husband travels a lot for work. It's easier for her to keep track of when the bills are due and what has been paid.
When you are first married, finding out what works for you can take some getting used to and some experimenting. You won't get married and have all of the answers. That's why the first few months of marriage seem to be so difficult. You are still trying to figure out who makes dinner, and who pays the bills. Do you get a joint bank account, or is it easier to keep two bank accounts for different expenses? It is just a learning curve, and maybe things will change ever once in awhile. You have to flow with life and be flexible enough to make the changes necessary for your family.
Life throws curve balls sometimes, and when it does, it is easier to get past them when you already know who is going to do what. You know that you are going to make dinner on Monday and Wednesday, and pay the power bill on Thursday, but your husband is going to make the mortgage payment in a week, and mow then lawn Saturday morning. Routine keeps things simple for kids, and it makes things easier for parents.
Be wiling to change your routine if you need to, and be willing to experiment to find the things you need and the things that make life easier. Changing things up every once in awhile might be just what you need.
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